Living Together Better Than Marriage?

Sponsored by: The Woman Men Adore

So someone sent me this link about how living together is better than marriage. Let's be honest, of course you can find research to support what you want to believe. Living together does have some benefits and it certainly will make someone happier in some instances.

That's not the problem. It's what living together does to a persons ability to develop intimacy. The study mentions somewhat casually, "Though previous (and highly cited) research has showed a higher divorce rate among couples who live together before they tie the knot compared to those who do not, these decades-old findings may be outdated." Well, you need to show research that disproves that instead of simply saying it may be outdated.

Most women believe that what guys like is living together before marriage so they can simply ease into getting married. Don't fall for that.

Living together certainly has some benefits, but the question I ask is what's your goal. If you want a man to marry you, then you need to demonstrate value. Make sharing a home with you something he has to work for and aspire to.

Please don't make it as convenient as a long extended date. Just recently Gene Simmons got married to his long time live in girlfriend. After years of living together she had this to say, "Being married is SO much different." She's right. Marriage is more than simply a piece of paper. That's why men are cautious about taking the plundge. They know it's the biggest commitment they will ever make. The question is...are you worth getting married to?

Do Men Always Cheat?

I saw this article and was intrigued by the title. Written by researchers that have discovered the truth that men will ALWAYS cheat.

Where do I begin. This kind of research has been going on for decades. If I didn't know better Hugh Hefner (Mr. Playboy) has sponsored these findings as it benefits his particular lifestyle.

Like much research, there is some truth to what the authors claim. If I ask almost anyone the simple question of "Tell me what guys like?" I'm sure many would respond with "sex on the side." The same would be true if I ask an actress is she would like to be able to eat anything she wanted. Even though they could, it isn't worth it.

The reason men don't cheat isn't just because they shouldn't it's because it's not worth it. Having sex on the side has consequences. It does something to you. It creates a an appetite for something that soon becomes rarely satisfied.

It's true that many men never learn this. They value the intensity of the forbidden, like a food addict craves whatever they want, when they want it. In time they become a slave to what they desire.

That's the problem. Either sex is no big deal or it's a huge deal. Most men realize this at some point in their life (hopefully before they marry) and realize that what you have with a wife creates a type of intimacy that you can't find from a hookup.

If you're a woman, don't fall for the nonsense that all men will cheat or that men can't help themselves. You're falling for one of the biggest cons every perpetrated on women in the last 20 years.

What Guys Like

Sponsored by: What Guys Like

Here's an article I just read about the difference between being hot vs. pretty. I've said it so many times, but it's just as true today - What Guys Like isn't always what they say they like.
The secret is that women need to understand men better than men understand themselves...regarding a relationship.

Women are the heart of a relationship and because of this they have tremendous power, yet so few actually use this ability. Instead so many opt for being the convenient girlfriend and simply hope the relationship works out.

You don't have to do that any more. For those rare women who know how to put their heart ahead of any man there is never a shortage of men that are dying to spend time with them. They may not be the tallest, skinniest, prettiest, etc. but they have something that men crave.
It is an almost magical quality that makes men simply want to be around them.

Secret to Marriage

Sponsor: What Husbands Can't Resist

Marriages that are passionate are the ones when each person realizes that passion is created rather than it simply happens. So often singles think that if they simply pick the right person, they'll have a wonderful marriage.

I agree who you marry is important, but even if you pick the perfect match you'll still need to live with them day to day. There will be circumstances that are scary and depressing, no matter how attractive they are.

After working with couples in marriage counseling for over 20 years, I can tell you what will mean the most to you. Not what should mean the most...but what will mean the most. It is a person's character. Are they kind, do they keep their word, etc. There is nothing more important that knowing you can count on your spouse.

kim kardashian - What's Wrong Here?

Regardless of whether you think Kim "staged" her wedding or it honestly ended, there's something wrong with her. I don't mean crazy, but it's important to realize that patterns don't lie. She's got more money than most people even dream of and she's very pretty and since she's been married before you would think she would understand that marriage isn't to be taken lightly. And yet, she ends the marriage in just a few months (or is it days)?

I've told women for years that being pretty, sexy or even rich isn't enough. Finding a keeping a wonderful man is more a reflection of what's in your heart and mind.

Years ago one of my favorite professors in Graduate School introduced our class to this principle. People marry others who are on the same level of emotional health as they are. Alcoholics marry co-dependents, Narcissists marry borderlines and wonderful men marry wonderful women.
After watching how Kim just ended her marriage, I'm reminded of that wise professor and just how right he was.

Why You Need To Get Your Man To Adore You

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your own is that when they are working well the time flies by, but
when you are having niggles it can really drag.

It is during that 'dragging time' that doubts can start to creep
into a relationship and men can start to have doubts about their
commitment to you and your relationship together.

The next step on this road is to a breakup that will almost
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It may be then that you find yourself today at one of these two
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Dare to dream that your relationship can be fabulous!

Understanding Men

Here's my first video posting. I've always given relationship advice that reflected what was actually helpful instead of telling my clients what everyone considered to be the safe answers. Here I point out the best way to measure what is really in a man's heart.



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Why Monogamy Matters

It seems I hear from countless women who tell me, "No one does that anymore." Well, a lot of people don't believe in monogamy and it's getting to the point that a lot more don't even believe in the value of getting married.

It's almost enough to make me wonder if a new trend is developing. Something that want's the benefits of intimacy without the responsibility of a commitment. If only such a thing existed. What many fail to understand is that a passionate and intense relationship doesn't help you much when you're sick and need someone to help you.

How exciting a person is doesn't really make much difference when you have a screaming 2 year old at 2am.

Marriage isn't obsolete. In fact, the best marriage advice I can offer to anyone considering simply dating instead of getting married is simply this: Do you want to be with someone that will leave once they realize their feelings change, or would you rather live with someone who loves you, even when you disappoint them?

Dare To Dream

What you believe has a huge impact on not only how your life turns out, but how others see you. It's more than simply being "positive." It has to do with your convictions. Those deeply held beliefs and fears that you have about yourself.

For your brain has an amazing way of making things happen that at times seem impossible. Actually, at times they should be impossible. If your circumstances aren't what you'd like them to be, then it doesn't have to stay that way. To become the woman that effortlessly attracts men, it starts from the inside and the best part is...it doesn't require perfection. The woman men adore is something every woman can become, once they decide it's what they deserve.

Best Dating Related Blog

I'd like to ask a favor. About.com is doing its 2011 Readers Choice Awards and is taking nominations.

It would mean a lot if you would take the time to nominate me for Best Dating-Related Blog and Best Dating-Related Book of 2010 (The Woman Men Adore). It will take about 10 seconds and did I mention that it would really mean the world to me, :-).

Click here to nominate me.

Just scroll to the last two categories on the list and put in the following:

“Your Nominee for Best Dating-Related Blog: Understanding Men”

“Your Nominee for Best Dating-Related Book of 2010: The Woman Men Adore by Bob Grant”

Thanks so much.

I'll have a new post later this week.

Sincerely,

Bob

Getting Hurt By A Man - Elin Nordegren - Tiger's Ex

I'll admit I haven't read the article, but judging from the cover she seems to be saying all the right things. What I do wonder is how she's keeping herself so "strong." If she's doing it from sheer will alone, in time that won't last or worse, she'll become bitter. That's what makes it so tough when you're the victim.
You've been hurt. Everyone agrees.
You protect yourself however you can.
Then the weeks and months go by and things "calm down."
If you don't replace those Coping Skills with something new, bitterness or being guarded sets in.
It's not that you want that, it's just once you've been hurt, it becomes harder to risk getting burned again.
At least, until you decide that life is short and you're ready to do whatever it takes to have the relationship you've dreamed of since you were little.
Elin, as hard as it might be to believe right now, I promise you, dreams really can come true.

Kim Dardashian Is Single...Again?

You've heard me say it so many times. What makes a man connect with you isn't simply about being pretty enough. Take Kim Kardashian. Do you really think the reason she's still single is because she isn't pretty? I've seen this pattern for years and it won't change until she realizes what she's doing to contribute to her remaining single.

It's the same reason that her sister Kourtney tolerates her horrible boyfriend. The beliefs each of them has about themselves contribute to their romantic life more than all of their fashion savvy.

Kim and Kourtney are experiencing what many successful women there age are going through. They have success in most areas of their lives, except men. It's a different set of rules that apply to relationships and eventually they will learn this or .............

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In Love With Love?

I saw this article and I'm reminded of how easy it is to be in love with being in love. If you look at her history of dating you'll notice this pattern:
1) Starts the relationship off with lots of intensity and passion.
2) Then she expects her man to maintain that same level of passion - indefinitely.
3) When he doesn't she begins to question his commitment and often presses him to reassure her of his love for her.
4) The relationship ends when he tires of having to "prove his love" to her.
5) She wonders what went wrong and how she can "get my boyfriend back".
6) Without a plan to save the relationship, she moves on to the next guy.
7) Repeat step 1

Jessica is proof that just being very attractive isn't enough to captivate a man.

Sex with Your Ex?

I was surfing the internet just looking for ideas for my newest ebook, "What's He Thinking?" and for some reason I stumbled upon this title. I am reminded of the women that have told me about this very thing. Some have had sex with their ex-husband. Others with their soon to be ex-husband and then there are women have mentioned that they had sex with their ex-boyfriend, even though they knew he was dating someone else. Why would they do such a thing? I'll bet you know the answer.
Because it just feels good.
All of them would admit that they weren't being logical and they would confess to being caught up in the moment, but if you dig a little deeper there is often a deeper motivation.
It makes them feel desirable that someone that who once cared about them still finds them attractive. There's only one problem and you know what that is too.
The next day.
That's what I as a therapist get to see most of. Instead of learning the secrets of the woman men adore, they instead choose a night of passion that leaves these women lonely, depressed and feeling hopeless. Is it exciting, you bet! It it worth it?