What Do Guys Like

I just got permission from a woman who bought 2 of my ebooks to use her picture on my website.
She doesn't want her name mentioned (so I won't), but the image she sent me of her wedding day is absolutely beautiful.
I still remember the first email she sent me and how nervous she was when she dared to become "The Woman Men Adore." She understood that it isn't always easy, but it is ALWAYS powerful and now she has her man. His heart is hers completely.
From some women I get emails that say, "Oh that won't work," or "I already do that and it get's me nowhere." I'm sorry, but they don't get it.
It works every time with a man.
It doesn't work with a player (someone who only wants a one night stand). It works for a lifetime on a man. It doesn't work on a guy who insists on always getting his way.
It works every time on a man.
It does not work on a man who avoids all conflict.
You see, it not only draws a wonderful man into your life, but it repels those guys that are a waste of time.
It doesn't change a man, it reveals him.
Here's a new site that I found that gives ideas about what guys like.

Dating Questions

As you might imagine in my line of work I have become familiar with many sites that offer dating advice. Most of these sites are transient, temporary and are built with the simple intention of making a buck. Since visitors see no real value added by them, they sputter out into online oblivion. It is not that I have something against the natural capitalist trade of value for money, especially if the equation is leaning towards the value side; but when people or companies put up low quality review or content sites, they are just sites waiting to die.
Having said all of this it is refreshing to see some sites that have the intention of adding value to this space. I am talking here about OnlineDatingVille.com. It is a difficult line to walk between commercial intent and adding value through content, but they are intertwined and I believe this site is doing a good job of balancing one with the other.
The articles I have read on the site go from just plain entertaining in their style and wit, to being actually helpful in answering dating questions or making a hard decision when dating online. Although they do promote some dating offers, they also have purely content based pages; which means to me that they are striving for a good give and take balance.
If you are evaluating using an online dating service and are not sure exactly what to do, then it might do you some good to stroll by OnlineDatingVille.com and get some good first hand info. The worst thing that can happen is that you will have a good entertaining read. This is one site that I believe will be a valuable place online for some time to come.

Jake Pavelka - The Bachelor

WomanMenAdore.net

I’d like to believe that 'Bachelor' Jake Pavelka and his new fiancee were going to live happily ever after. I really would like to see them succeed, but I just a can’t see how. Theirs is the recipe for disaster. Intense beginnings that are based more on “chemistry” than substance make wonderful Hollywood movies, but terrible marriages. Why you ask? Because marriage is more about what you do when there is no chemistry rather than what you do when you’re full of emotion. The real passion comes when each partner does acts of kindness….when they don’t feel like it. So I really do hope you and Vienna make it, but if the rumors are true that you’re planning to move in together then I’m afraid you’ll likely find your relationship is more like a make believe fairy tale that comes to an end.

Can Tiger Save His Marriage?

From: RelationshipHeadquarters.com

I had lunch with a couple of women today who asked me that very question. My reply?

Yes, Tiger can save his marriage if...
His wife wants it saved and if he's willing to learn how to allow her to influence him.
You see, in spite of all the horrible things he's alleged to have done, what happens now and in the future is more important that the past.
Now, I'm not saying whether she should or shouldn't take him back - that's for her to decide. But if she does, even though it will be a long path, they actually could save their marriage.

Couples Who Fight - One Word Makes A Difference

RelationshipHeadquarters.com

I'll admit I love research. Especially the kind that provides insights that are simple to use and repeat. That's why this insight, in my opinion, is very helpful for couples.

Different Kinds Of Affairs?

RelationshipHeadquarters

I saw this and thought it was interesting. It details the differences between jealousy between men and women. My experience with clients is simply that once someone crosses the line and has an affair, it's similar to experimenting with a drug. They can stop but unless they make a conscious effort to do so, they won't.

The Narcissist Test

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I found this test while doing some research. Not the most scientific, but it gives you a pretty good indication of where your man (or even you) might fall on the "hard to get along with" scale.

Enjoy.

7 Lies Women Believe About Men

It's been a while I know. I've been working on new products and here is the latest.

7 Lies Women Believe About Men - 2 CD set.

What are those lies you ask? Here are 2 to begin with:

Lie #1 Men aren't Romantic

Lie #2 All Men Cheat on their Partner

Want to know the rest? Find out more here...

What He Wants

RelationshipHeadquarters.com

Most women ask me what they can say to make a man act or respond in a certain way. While there are some things you can say that work better than others, there really isn't anything that works all the time.
Think about it, can you imagine me telling a man what to say that would get you to do whatever he wanted you to do?
The only way that is virtually fool proof is to learn how to be Captivating to a man. That's where the power is for a woman. The Authentic woman will always own a man's heart and he won't mind one bit.

Holly has Passion - Guys Like Holly

From RelationshipHeadquarters.com


I know a woman named Holly. She specializes in helping website owners understand what appeals to women. That may not sound very exciting, and for most individuals - it isn't. However, Holly is passionate about it. In fact, when I get her newsletter, I find myself getting excited just from reading it. She really does love what she does. It shows in the way she talks, and in the content of every article she writes.
Now, here's what's surprising to a lot of women - men find that kind of woman captivating. Whether it's your job or a favorite hobby, a man can feel the difference when they are in the presence of a woman who participates in something she loves on a regular basis. It really is hypnotic.

What about you? What do you do that you love? What hobbies do you participate in regularly? Are there books you read that make your soul come alive? If not, then you'll likely put too much pressure on a man to make you happy. Honestly, a man will sense that, and feel that pressure.

When you make a relationship just ONE of the things that brings you joy, a man will notice that, and take notice.

Emotional Dependency - Men Love It

Sponsor: RelationshipHeadquarters.com

Whenever you hear the word “dependency,” most of us think in terms of some form of addiction or disease. It tends to imply something that should be avoided, fixed, or terminated. Most individuals with dependencies are those with addictive personalities, and thus rely on others to meet their needs and fulfill their responsibilities. Not the type of person you want to be in a relationship with, or aspire to become.


What if I told you that making a man emotionally dependent on you was a good thing? In fact, what if.... click here to read more.

Top 10 Blogs For Women

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I was pleasantly surprised "Understanding Men" was selected as one of the Top 10 Best “Love” Blogs for women by AllWomenStalk.com. I was in good company with other blogs from strengtheningmarriage.com, Glamour magazine and marriage.families.com.
Thanks so much AllWomenStalk.com!

You Don't Have to be Perfect

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What do men really want in a woman?

After years of listening to women in my private practice, many seem to think that men expect nothing less than perfection. If you were to visit some popular men’s websites such as; askmen.com or maximum.com you would certainly think that unless a woman is both highly attractive and incredibly accommodating, that men have no interest. This is not really accurate. At least not in the way you might think.

I often illustrate this to women by asking this question:

“If you had a choice between two men and everything about them was exactly the same, with the exception of one being worth millions and one being poor, who would you prefer? Would you select the wealthy one, or the one who was poor?”

You Know the Answer: If they were equal in all other aspects, most women state that they would choose the wealthy gentleman. I mean, why not if everything else is equal?

Now when men hear this some are likely to say, “That’s right, all a woman cares about is a guy who makes a lot of money.” In fact, that conclusion would be incorrect. A man would be wrong to assume that just because a woman likes the characteristic of a man with money that she cannot love a man unless he is wealthy. In fact, most women I speak with tell me this, “It isn’t that he has to make a certain amount, but I would like to know that he has the potential to make enough for me to feel comfortable.” In fact, most women are willing and/or expect to help out financially.

This same standard applies to men. If given the choice between.... To continue reading Click Here

If it could happen to Rihanna…..

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Why do some women end up with losers or abusers?


The answer - abusive men are often exciting. Their passion, when properly applied, can be quite captivating. Unfortunately, they frequently use that same passion when they become upset to inflict evil upon a woman. Often their victims say that their rage seemed to appear “out of nowhere.”

In addition, many women in this situation often use this phrase, “I know what he did was bad, but when he’s good, he’s sooo good. This bad stuff isn’t really him. I know the person he truly is.” What’s sad is that they often see this man as someone who is basically good who just happens to lose his temper on occasion.


What they, and hopefully Rihanna, need to remember is what James Allen once said:
“Circumstances don’t make a man, they reveal him.”


If a man ever hits a woman that violent nature was inside of him before he ever met that woman. She did not cause or contribute to that violent nature, nor is she responsible for it.

The Bachelor Dumps Both Women?

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I admit it - I watched a portion of the final episode of the bachelor. I bet many of you did too.


For those of you that missed the final episode - let me recap….



As those of you who have seen the show know, by the end of the series the choice is narrowed down to only two women. The bachelor has to select one of them. In this instance, the bachelor (Jason) dumped Molly at the final rose ceremony in favor of Melissa. A few weeks later, again on national television, Jason changes his mind and dumps Melissa in favor of Molly.


My wife called me into the room where she was watching the “After the Rose Ceremony” portion of the show, and she kept uttering these words, “I can’t believe that guy. How could he do that to those women?” (She said a lot of other things about Jason, but I would rather not repeat them).


Of course I had to enlighten her as to exactly how Jason could do that to those women.…


Jason appears to be one of those men that is in touch with his feelings (possibly too in touch with them).

Was Jason being dishonest with Molly when he initially cut her loose, and then with Melissa a few months later when he changed his mind, and decided he preferred Molly? I don’t think so. I suspect that Jason confuses intensity with intimacy. He assumes, like many men (and women as well), that the stronger he feels about someone, the more compatible he believes they are. As you can tell from watching, this only works when the relationship is going well. However, once things start to “normalize,” which eventually, occurs in every relationship (i.e., you get more comfortable with each other, start to recognize a few minor flaws, etc), this is a recipe for disaster.


What is the solution?


Surprisingly, it isn’t that Jason can’t ever find and/or keep love. It is that he is the worst person to try and find love in the format of “The Bachelor.” He needs to date someone for several months, (preferably longer). The woman needs to get accustomed to his moodiness. When he’s motivated and inspired, he is magical, but when he has doubts, he can be extremely unpredictable with his feelings. Only women with very high self esteem need consider dating Jason. At least based on what I witnessed last night.


One Final Observation…


Do you know who I was most impressed with? It was Melissa.

When she was riding away in the Limo she said to the camera, “I know that there is something about me…” I was so impressed by her willingness to consider that she might be contributing to her pattern of relationship breakups, as she indicated that this “always happened to her.” I thought that took a lot of courage and I don’t believe she is that far from discovering why she is “always the one being dumped.”
All she needs is someone who can show her how to change her pattern.